I wrote this the other day… I’ve edited it a bit, it goes with the drawing below …
Lots of women and men for that matter can relate to the theme. We’re all held hostage to body image, whether we’re not the model, or we can’t get past seeking and wanting the model. At some point in our lives all of us get tested by this, and all of us must face those moments when something or someone *imperfect* gives us reason to chose. What we chose and how we chose is ultimately a very personal thing. Judging choices is not the point of bringing up the subject either by the way.
I have several disabled readers, two that I know of who have successfully found lifestyle partners. I have countless readers who like myself struggle with weight (even if for some of us it’s impossible and even unhealthy standards we seek too meet), yet I know more overweight readers who have happy and successful lifestyle relationships than any other group, bar none. The over 40 crowd (all sizes) dominates the feild of singles finding like minded partners on line. Diversity is the norm. So I think the poem has a place.
What’s Been
©july 2007 by pattyRumpled sheets surround
Her body’s burning pain
The confusions that abound
Her worth tested yet again
Deeper in her heart
She questions every though
Having offered them as part
Of what he said he sought
Not knowing what to think
She’s inclined to curl away
Let her heart just shrink
And pray for a new day
The loss may break her heart
Though not for what has been
But what may never start
And promises made lean
By shallow hopes and dreams
That image culture feeds
Human connection so it seems
S’held hostage to these needs
So lost in rumpled sheets
She contemplates what’s been
The ‘never mind’ entreats
‘It’s all good I’m keen(s)’
Enthusiastic lies
He really thought were true
His over zealous tries
To try and change his shoe.
She’d prayed to grasp and hold
Her own weaknesses with in
External stress was bold
It clocked her on the chin
So both of them are flawed
Instead of seeing truth
It seems their hearts they’ve clawed
The blood‘s left to the sluice
It’s not what could have been
It’s what their hearts must do
Get past perfection’s scene
And trust in them as two.
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On another subject. 8 days & 20 hours before I’m touched by the hand of John