Self Spanking
Self Spanking
I got a question in e-mail a while back that kind of got lost in the shuffle and now I can’t find the mail to answer it. “What’s the best implement for self spanking?” It’s funny how inhibited I was about this topic even though it’s been something I indulged in even when I had an active spanking life. I’ll never forget the first time that I discovered that bolster pillows on top of the ottoman in my bedroom make a great lap. I’d just gotten a whole bed *ensemble* from Laura Ashley … oooo la de da. Lololol! Yeah, I know, very hoity toity. I’m over it now, my decorator materialistic phase. It did make for some tense times, voiciferous discussions and a very hot bum more than once, and it also led me to make that self indulgent discovery.
I put the pillows on the ottoman while I made the bed, and as it happens I let my mind wander in a libidinous direction while I toiled. I wasn’t quite in the mood to ask for a spanking or earn one, but I was in the mood for a little stingy fantasy. When I started putting all my frilly stuff back on top of the bed, I noticed the bolsters the way I’d placed them, side by side so they just fit on top of the upholstered foot stool. I’d been bent over that piece of furniture many times, and being bent over was on my mind in that very naughty and quite needy way as I noted what those bolsters looked like the way I’d subconsciously placed them. So, I leaned down over them to test my thoughts. “Oh my! Almost perfect.” Then I needed an implement since my hand is useless to make use of that energy.
At that time the only things I’d tried were the wooden spoon and our first bath brush. The spoon was better because it was a bit longer than the brush. Both were better than the belt which is hard to wield in proper spanking positions. I tried the handle of the leather dog leash once, it was too intense … thin, thick doubled over sturdy leather.
I’ve discovered that position matters as much as the implement when it comes to self administered spankings and their relative effectiveness, and there are some positions that I won’t try (diaper position for example.)
The belt, any long leather strap and a cane or switch have to be used standing up if you want to make the sting real. Personally I find that they hurt too much right off the bat if you wield them with enough swing that they land right to be even a little bit sensual. If you want instant pain that you really can’t control, because of the swing you have to impart, to get the implement to land on your butt and not stray or flop uselessly, and you are ok with having to stand to self administer, then a one inch belt, a half inch handle end of a leather dog leash, a thin schoolmaster Amish harness type strap or a fresh cut thin and flexible switch will do it. You have to swing from the front and let it wrap. Take my word for it, or test it yourself, you can really make it hurt, I’ve just never been able to do it for more than a few licks, and it hurts too much to be what I usually want when the spirit moves me to self spank.
Ordinary hairbrushes are pretty fair. The plastic hollow kind sting a lot but are noisy (not my favorite), wood is only as good as your arm. The longer the handle and the broader the impact surface (up to a point – too wide and you loose impact with a self swing), the braver you are, the more you can build it up to reasonable spanking intensity. On the bed over pillows is the best position I have tried for shorter implements like cracker barrel paddles and hair brushes. The cracker barrel paddle is probably the most ouchie and effective when used for self application when you’ve mounted yourself over pillows on your bed. The wooden spoon or spatula is also good in this position. I once spanked myself to the point of deep bruises that I felt for several days using the handle end of a wooden spoon … of course I’d built up to it and extended my fantasy quite gradually as my wrist got meaner and meaner. Coming while self spanking especially when you take your time and really build it up, can be extremely intense by the way.
My favorites when it comes to building up to a long session that leaves a long burn and can be felt when sitting later, are the Vermont country store bath brush or the *brat paddle* given to me by the readers of my old blog. The bath brush is just a bit more than a foot long, broad & heavy enough that your wrist can deliver a nasty whack (but one you can control) without the swing you need for shorter implements. I’ve actually made myself cry with it. The leather *brat* paddle (made by London tanners) is a perfect length for swinging using your wrist. These two, the wooden spoon and some heavier paddles like Jokari are best used bent over the edge of your bed, on your hands and knees on your bed, over bolster pillows on an ottoman and over the arm or back of a hip height surface like a sofa arm or back.
So what’s the best implement for self spanking? I guess I have to say the *brat paddle* an ordinary wooden spoon, the cracker barrel paddle and the Vermont bath brush. Best positions? Over pillows on your bed (perfect for realizing the full effects of the hip movements most of us can’t help when self stimulation is a needful thing) or over bolster pillows on an ottoman (if you want that lap feeling) or over the arm of a sofa.
I’m a wimp when it comes to instant pain but when warmed up, I last for a long time and can take increasing intensity so that after I’m often surprised by how hard I let things get. The fact that I only self spank for sensual needs and use fantasy to fuel it says a lot there. Actually getting punished is so much different, something I just don’t have the hchutspah to even try to replicate.
Hope that answers questions….
That time I first discovered the bolsters on the ottoman? What? You actually want me to tell you how I went and got the wooden spoon pulled my pants down leaned back down over the bolstered ottoman and started spanking myself and then as I was just about through and had switched to masturbation got caught with my red butt in the air? Man o Man! That was a cringing though particularly delicious moment…. As I said, I’ve self spanked since I was a teen - kept it up even when I cried about my lot having a cruel husband who spanked – even after I woke up to my luck and needs, and yes I still do it now….
August 30th, 2006 at 11:01 am
Shame I live on the wrong side of the pond Patty, if I lived nearer I’d be happy to take over that difficult task for you.
When I was growing into my sexuality, I tried it a few times, it certainly fired up my mind,
yes it was hot, but it led me to the fact that I really needed a nice feminine butt to warm and I wasn’t really happy ’til I found on, so was born another spanko Dom.
Nice post Patty girl.
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.
August 30th, 2006 at 2:14 pm
I would bet money right now that someone read that and doesnt feel nearly as unsettled about themselves and those thoughts about self-spanking.
There is probably a whole house full of implements if one is brave enough.Some might even be enough of a pain-slut to use a thin electrical cord-type device as a whip.Anybody?lol.
August 30th, 2006 at 8:45 pm
You’re right Jeff, on both counts
. The thin ones like for usb cables hurt worse than anything I’d ever felt.
I’m the one who sent the e-mail, and Patty: It’s funny how you say how inhibited you were because I was so embarrassed to even send the E-mail. I’m glad I did tho. It’s nice to see other people who have done it too, instead of thinking you’re crazy. Thank you for answering with so much information.
Love,
Becca
August 31st, 2006 at 1:29 am
Good to have you back Patty! I followed your old blog and while I miss all that you had up, I understand. I almost cried when you left and so glad your back. You made so many people comfotable with what they wanted and nothing can diminish that.
Much love!
August 31st, 2006 at 8:35 pm
Patty,
I remember the delicious story of Fred making you spank yourself while the video tape was running and he talked to you on the phone. I know it was all fantasy but–damn, girl, it was ONE HOT FANTASY!!!!
I get spanked occassionally and am hoping for a good girl spanking this weekend. But I have had to refrain from self spanking and masturbating while I wait. I want my time with MG to be very special. He will be here in about 21 hours. Nothing like counting down the time till he gets here. *grin*
SNN
September 2nd, 2006 at 12:02 pm
lolol Paul. You just might tempt me to get in my canoe and cross the pond. *g* I wonder how many Doms have tested out an implement or two on themseles?
Jeff, you are diabolically evil… which is of course one of the reasons I like you so much.
*g* I know know it was you becca, but I figured I’d leave that disclosure up to you. I’m glad you asked it. Hope the answer here is of some help. Just as ALL of your very supportive and wonderful e-mails have been to me. TY!
Hi Gail, welcome here. Glad you found me again. Thank you.
LOL SNN… counting down to spanking huh. I’ll be doing that next Friday too. Hope you have a great and HOT weekend!
September 17th, 2006 at 10:35 pm
Hi new to your blog. I have a Dom but as we arnt R/L I do self spanking. Iv used
Plastic Hanger
Wooden Hanger
A switch type wood thingy(its the thin lil poles you can buy at Walmart)
Belt(I cant swing a belt)
Hairbrush both wood and plastic(wood hurt more)
Spatula
Kool-aid spoon
The worst for me is the kool-aid spoon because not only does it sting! but it also cruely leaves little smily faces on you bottom. =D
little one
March 21st, 2007 at 4:22 pm
I’ve used pilows on the bed, but my favorite is a big exercise ball, the kind of ball one uses at the gym. I lie down on it with my butts exposed and spank my butts with the Vermont brush you mention. The ball enables me to positionn myself exactly in front of the tall mirror in the bedroom and to move so that I can see my butts from different angles as the spanking progresses. It’s very exciting and arousing! I keep my vibrator handy.
I LOVE your blog, thanks for writing it and thanks for all the links also!! Regards, Laura
July 30th, 2007 at 11:50 pm
I find it hard to generate enough sting. Once I accidently nailed myself with a rubber jumprope. Even through underwear, gym shorts, and sweats I yelled OW like a third-grader taking his medicine. Nice red welt. Attempts to re-create were not good, but I could generate some bruises with knots in the jumprope, then I would torture the bruised skin with pliers. The best bruises I ever had were 1. I turned my whole right cheek into an eggplant with the belt, 7th grade, and 2. purple/black/blue/red/yellow side of right hip bruise with wire coathanger. Problem is, I need the drama and the mild fear. Auto-eroticism lacks the emotions, unless you get a robospanker like on Howard Stern.
July 31st, 2007 at 12:01 am
btw: I once managed to get some nice purple welts by using
both ends of a wiffle bat on the side on the left thigh swung from the right on a 45-degree down angle. For me, however, the pain was too mild. I can enjoy pain just about anywhere from mid-thigh to back-butt border, but welts, marks, bruises, etc. must be from crease or fold to mid-cheek. Some self-spanking can really hurt if you go for the anal cleft, and nothing on the muscle ever hurts half as much as a towel snap directly to the anus or the perineum.
I never liked getting pain in those regions.
November 18th, 2007 at 12:19 pm
Smashball paddles, and tourist paddles work great. If you drill holes in the wooden smashball paddle, it creates a crotch-vibrating thump that is great.
January 14th, 2008 at 6:17 am
Thank you for sharing your self-spanking experience.
I’ve found that a “bed-buddy” length pillow folded over with two or more regular sized pillows tucked between makes a nice lap to bend over if I place myself on it lengthwise.I use a variety of implements for effect,but a long wooden paint stick delivers the kind of sting I like so much.
February 10th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
I have always in the absence of a person to spank me, found self spanking very satisfying, and in most cases found a wooden flat spoon the best implement! The desired result is that great sexual relief of sblime pain!
May 22nd, 2008 at 8:23 pm
I too have used self spanking for a long time. I use a flimsy plastic hanger that I can bring down extremely hard with marks lasting for days. I only wish that I had a partner to enjoy spanking with.
May 28th, 2008 at 11:01 am
I have self spanked quite a few times, but not in a while. The best endorphine rush was one time when I did it over a 8 hour period. I would recover and go again. Got intense pain and some great marks.
One nice thing that is not loud is a bundle of swiches or even a single switch. Deciding on the number ahead of time helps, so you don’t stop too soon, because they really sting.
The after effects are what I am going for - the marks and feeling it the next day - so that gives me the motivation to fight through the pain.
August 9th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
I too wish I had a real time friend to exchange spanks with! In the meantime, I’ve been using 3 paint sticks (the kind they give away free at Home Depot, or a paint store). As I’m using them, they sometimes fan out which is great too. I’ve also used a spatula (the angled handle makes for a nice, solid, smack!).